Do you ever decide something just because it feels better?
I switched midwives just because it didn’t feel good…
I felt off the days after the first intake
Within minutes she had crushed my dream of a natural non-clinical pregnancy that I was craving for after all the research you get with a twin pregnancy (great that they check you up that much by the way, as twins are a risky business and I’m very blessed that everything went smoothly and naturally).
She didn’t seem to understand that it’s normal for twins to be born a bit earlier and smaller than a single baby. I mean, anyone seeing me at 35 weeks would understand that there simply was no space… I was a giant belly with a little woman attached to it.
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She told me to take aspirin every day throughout the whole pregnancy… all kinds of extra ultrasounds in the hospital… more bloodtests… other kinds of weird research etc etc etc
It felt off and I asked around for a good midwife, which brought me to the same one who already spoke to me online.
I cancelled the first midwife and just said ‘maybe you’re great at what you do, you’ll probably have a lot of happy healthy clients, but for me it just doesn’t feel right, so… bye!’ 😆
Doing this AND speaking out about it in plain language, without making up a stupid excuse or lying about moving to Australia, was UNTHINKABLE for me years ago… or months ago…
Wow, this felt SOOOO liberating!
Maybe this midwife is just as good as the other, I thought… but it feels better! I did it because it FEELS BETTER.
But it gets more interesting… 😵
A couple of weeks later I spoke an old friend who used to be a MD studying to be an ob/gyn. He brought 400 babies into the world (well, the mothers did, but he helped) and he said that taking aspirin during pregnancy can cause malformation of the baby and that the first midwife should appear at the medical disciplinary board. 😲😳
I’m glad my intuition saved my baby and me from this!
How have you made the best decisions in your life? Writing down the pros and cons? Or going with your gut?